Tuesday, April 26, 2011

Gender Wars and The Patient Modesty Debate: Sowing Seeds of Alliance

Gender wars can serve a valid purpose. Historically, socially, personally: Their seeds can grow into multi-colored displays of equity or germinate into dominant monolithic icons of power and control. It’s safe to say they will always exist, until we create a third gender to take our frustrations out on.
But are these battles expected to grow out of every situation? Can’t certain struggles simply take root in the duality of cooperation? When we find that we have a common struggle, will we always debase it to whose is worse before we agree to simply make it better for everyone?
The truth is that the “Medical Modesty” gender war has to end, or neither will reap benefits for very long. If we do not defend and help each other we will simply be considered a fad: a temporary and unique ‘genre’ in the medical arena.
A recent example: A few months ago I decided to investigate and collect data on male sexual abuse, the aftermath, and unique stress syndromes that male survivors may experience. Obviously this information would be useful in determining medical modesty preferences (if any), as well as avoidance in seeking care. It is no surprise that this problem is more rampant than generally believed. What is a surprise are the amount of people and sources who want to argue about which gender’s sexual abuse is more important. The issues of privacy, modesty, and respectful care involving abuse survivors quickly becomes a debate between genders: Why females would be/feel more threatened, why men would/wouldn’t have consideration, why would a woman investigate male sexual abuse and whose point of view was I intending to speak for.
And for this I have to ask……. “why”?
Do I really need to pick a gender side to be on? Do any of us really need to stop at the line drawn in the sand, or can we simply advocate for each other? Must we always first decide “who’s ahead” before leaving someone behind? Of course not. We need to stand together as a co-operative unit, support each other, and use our gendered talents for the benefit of each other and not for petty arguments.
*Remember: If the issues are not supported by both genders, then they become less valid for either.
It is not smooth sailing for anyone. Modesty in medicine stems from many reasons and has its unique struggles for each individual. With that, it is our responsibility is to speak up when encountering inequity or abuse. So I would challenge any woman who defends her ethical rights in healthcare to also defend those of the man beside her. And any man who stands up for his modesty/morals in healthcare to do so for the woman beside him as well.
Some issues are larger than gender. They are, instead, desperately human.


At April 27, 2011 at 1:18 PM , Anonymous Anonymous said...

Yes we all need to stop piddling around and help each other. men+ women=people.


At April 29, 2011 at 6:16 AM , Anonymous Anonymous said...

I agree wholeheartedly. It seems that the medical modesty blog has recently degenerated into an issue as to whether or not men have it worse than women in having their modesty needs met. I would much rather see posts dedicated to constructive solutions for both genders as well as possible approaches we can all use when encountering the medical world to help us achieve more postitive experiences. I have requested that my husband support me in my medical gender preferences and I have told him that I would do the same for him if he felt the need. Jean

At May 6, 2011 at 10:21 AM , Blogger Suzy Furno-Maricle said...

Well done Jean. Spouses who work with each other find it easier to create solutions to each other's needs.
Unfortunately, many spouses (and SO's) never think about this issue, and it turns out to be a big hurdle with severe marital damage when the situation arises. I only wish more people knew to discuss these issues before the relationship suffers.
Information and communication is key. And you are right....solutions should then follow: with the help AND on an the behalf of both genders.

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At January 16, 2012 at 6:57 AM , Anonymous Anonymous said...

I would love to see both genders be treated equally, and care about each others modesty concerns. Good article.

At July 27, 2016 at 10:21 PM , Anonymous Anonymous said...

I have worked as a medical interpreter in the past, and I am well aware of patient modesty issues. We need to stop stereotyping male patients as lacking modesty. Even men who have served in the military may be modest. After all, most,if not all, army doctors have been male, historically. Women's modesty is better documented, perhaps.

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At August 15, 2016 at 8:27 PM , Blogger Suzy Furno-Maricle said...

Anon July 27th....
Can you tell me : are you male or female and perhaps what have you done to help mitigate the modesty/dignity issue?

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I have over 4 quarts of urine in my bladder, I'm going to the urologist.No female present, or teach me how to insert a catheter.I hope the doctor can help me.


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